Thinking Carefully About Your Options

The most important issue in donor conception is that all those involved — donor(s) and recipients — think very long and hard about all the potential consequences of third-party reproduction for themselves, their family and any children who are born as a result of gamete or embryo donation.

Here's the bottom line if you're thinking of using donor gametes or embryos:

1 Eggs: If you use donor eggs, your baby won't be genetically related to the female partner.

1 Sperm: If you use donor sperm, your baby won't be genetically related to the male partner.

1 Embryos: If you use donor embryos, the baby won't be genetically related to either of you.


Although many people aren't worried about this, some think that genetic links are very important. That's why clinics put a lot of effort into making sure that couples considering either receiving or donating gametes or embryos are given plenty of opportunity to consider the many issues that arise around donor conception before they go ahead. If you're thinking about using or donating gametes or embryos, expect in-depth discussions with an IVF counsellor to thrash out all the complexities involved in donor conception.

The donor doesn't have any legal obligations to a child born as a result of the donation; it's the couple who raise the child who are the child's legal parents.

Counselling is an essential part of the donor conception process. The idea is that you sit down with someone who knows all about donor conception and discuss issues such as:

1 Future interactions between the donor and child 1 How a donor will be found

1 How the donation may impact on your relationship with the donor if he or she is known to you

¡^ Practical and legal aspects of treatment ¡^ The circumstances of the donation

¡^ The impact of using donor gametes on your relationship with your partner

¡ The lack of a genetic tie to a child born after the procedure ¡^ Who to tell about the donation — and when and how ¡ Your expectations of the procedure

Research shows that both donors and recipients find the counselling process more helpful than they think it will be, particularly with regard to gaining a better understanding of the legal side of donor conception, thinking about what to tell the child about being donor-conceived (and when) and whether the child is going to have contact with the donor in the future.

The whole point of counselling is to make sure that, as far as possible, everyone involved in donor conception is comfortable with the idea and aware of their responsibilities to a child who may be born as a result of the donation. The counsellor wants to be really certain that:

¡^ A known donor isn't coerced or talked into being a donor.

¡ Both partners in the recipient couple feel that using a donor to have a baby is the right decision for them.

¡ Both partners in the recipient couple are aware of the importance of openness and are willing to consider the welfare of their child in relation to being informed about the way he or she was conceived.

¡ The donor informs his or her own children that they may have a biological half-sibling.

¡ The donor involves his or her partner in the decision to donate gametes.

¡ The donor is aware that he or she may be contacted by the child in the future.


If you decide to use donor eggs or sperm, the child created will be biologically related to one of you. The non-biological parent is the legal parent, but is this fact going to be a problem if you and your partner separate down the road? Is this issue something that one of you may fling in the other's face if the child has a serious health problem, or ends up in trouble with the law? Will the fact that one of you can see family features in your child's face while the other can't become a source of friction? You need to consider these questions, as well as any others that cross your mind, before you make the leap.

iBEff The counselling process sometimes makes donors and/or recipients aware of things they hadn't thought of or known about before. This can make them review their decision to be part of the donor process, which can be very upsetting for everyone involved. But it's far better for a participant to pull out before the event than to go ahead and regret their participation later down the track.

Pregnancy Diet Plan

Pregnancy Diet Plan

The first trimester is very important for the mother and the baby. For most women it is common to find out about their pregnancy after they have missed their menstrual cycle. Since, not all women note their menstrual cycle and dates of intercourse, it may cause slight confusion about the exact date of conception. That is why most women find out that they are pregnant only after one month of pregnancy.

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