Dealing with Your Feelings

Even if you suspect that you have a fertility problem, receiving the actual diagnosis of infertility suddenly makes it all real and scary. This isn't how you planned it! Books written about the emotional impact of a diagnosis of infertility compare it's magnitude with the devastation of other major life events such as the loss of a loved one or divorce.

You have no way of knowing how long your infertility will last. You may fall pregnant next month or you may never conceive. This uncertainly is one of the most difficult things about being infertile: Limbo isn't a good place to be.

Unfortunately, you need to face the fact that it may take you a lot of time, effort and money to reach your goal of parenthood and that getting there will consume a great deal of emotional energy. The best way to handle this is to acknowledge and try to understand your own and your partner's feelings and reactions and to find ways of dealing with negative feelings such as worry, sadness and hopelessness so that these feelings don't take over your life completely. I devote the whole of Chapter 2 to this topic and hope that it helps you on your infertility journey.

Dealing with the stress and strains of infertility is a major challenge and if you add to that the emotional ups and downs of IVF treatment, you can be forgiven for feeling under the pump from time to time. I discuss how you can prepare for the emotional roller-coaster ride of IVF treatment in Chapter 9; and in Chapter 11, I cover what's known about the short- and long-term risks of infertility and IVF to your mental health and wellbeing.

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A Beginner's Guide to Healthy Pregnancy. If you suspect, or know, that you are pregnant, we ho pe you have already visited your doctor. Presuming that you have confirmed your suspicions and that this is your first child, or that you wish to take better care of yourself d uring pregnancy than you did during your other pregnancies; you have come to the right place.

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