Typical Responses

A woman who had a very difficult time with confrontation wanted desperately to tell her critical brother-in-law to stop finding fault with everything she did, but was intimidated. I asked her who in the group

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most reminded her of her brother-in-law. She selected the group "grump" and was willing to practice on him, and he agreed, as well. What was interesting was not that she selected him, but the group discussion that followed. It was the first time the group had addressed the grumpiness and negativity of the grumpy member directly. It had always been there, but treated as a cute idiosyncrasy, when, in fact, it was obviously annoying to everyone.

During a quiet time in the group, I asked if there was another member who reminded them of a relative. One woman immediately raised her hand and said "Oh yes," as she pointed to the well-dressed and always in control professional young man sitting across from her. "You remind me of my arrogant uncle," she continued. He appeared to be stunned, as did the rest of the group for this was perhaps the first hint of negativity whispered within the confines of this group. As the group progressed, it became quickly apparent that the young man had no idea that he might be perceived this way, especially when other group members chimed in and supported the initial observation. It was an enormous risk for the first member, a huge step for the group, and it opened the door for further exploration on the young man's part on how his utter sense of control might be perceived by others.

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