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In a group that had been meeting for several years, a particular member had become increasingly withdrawn and silent, even though he had been an active participant for several years. Over the course of a couple of months, other members became increasingly frustrated with him as he withdrew from participation. On several occasions he attempted to alert the group that he did not feel attended to by them, or in the rare instances that they did acknowledge him, he felt quickly brushed aside as they moved on to other business. Several members criticized him for his neediness, and indeed this reflected some of my own feelings toward this member. They would criticize him for not more assertively asking for attention, or "jumping in" when he needed something, pointing out that he had done this many times before. No matter what the group or I did to invite his participation, he became increasingly withdrawn, but simultaneously resentful and seething with anger. At first I used my own induced feelings to explore possible feelings in the other group members (e.g., frustration, annoyance, a desire to leave the group member alone in his frustration), but realized that the only effect was to stimulate further frustration and withdrawal. After consultation with a colleague, I became aware that what I and the group were doing was attempting to penetrate the resistance, which only further stimulated greater defensiveness.

As I began to watch this person more carefully, I began to have the fantasy that he was engaged in a struggle to stave off what was increasingly experienced as an onslaught by the group. It became clear to me that the whole time I had conceptualized him as being over-insulated emotionally, he was in fact underinsulated. Rather than stubbornly withstanding the onslaught of the group with silence, it became clear that their criticisms were indeed finding their mark, and that he had deceived the group for quite awhile into mistakenly believing that they were having no impact. Upon realization of my flawed assessment, I now could reformulate a plan for intervening.

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