ANDREW: "I thought this was supposed to be a safe place. I guess I was wrong."

TH: "You feel you were unfairly criticized for something that wasn't your fault and I didn't do anything to prevent it." ANDREW: "You just sat there and let it happen. You didn't do a damned thing about it!" TH: "What's it like for you to be angry at me about this?"


There will be a sense of relief on the part of both principals, as well as the rest of the group. The confrontation did not escalate out of control (nobody "died"). Both of them were able to express some anger at a safe and receptive target (the therapist). In addition, the therapist provided a model for nondefensively handling negative feelings. Both principals were also invited to explore and express their own experience of the encounters, thus helping to establish an important therapeutic norm. Other members of the group should also be invited to share what it was like for them. This will open up further disclosures about their outside current and past relationships, fostering more sharing and greater cohesiveness.

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