Example 1

Jane becomes angry with Andrew for coming late and "forcing" her to repeat her story. Andrew responds with increasingly uncomfortable mumbled apologies and excuses. Jane only becomes angrier. Neither seems able to effectively engage with each other. There is a real risk of either or both of them becoming an early group casualty.

• At this point, the therapist can intervene by redirecting both of them to himself/herself. To Jane, the therapist may say, "I can understand how you might feel about Andrew's lateness, but I think you also have some feelings about whether I'm doing a good job of establishing the group's boundaries." To Andrew, he/she may say, "I can see this is difficult for you. Maybe you are somewhat angry at me for allowing you to be criticized."

JEFF: "Yeah, Doc, how can you allow this? You have no idea how irritating this is for me. If you can't get your act together how are the rest of us supposed to?" TH: "You're angry at me for not making sure you can get your needs met in here?" JEFF: "That's right." TH: "So what is this like for you?"

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