When your child has a chronic medical problem, and it's one that your other children don't have, you may feel like you're balancing on a tightrope sometimes. You don't want to pay so much attention to the sick child that the healthy children think that they should act sick to be heard and seen. But at the same time, you can't ignore FMS, just as you can't ignore other chronic medical problems your child may have, such as diabetes, asthma, and so on.
Try to make sure that every child gets "special time" with you, tailoring the amount of time and the activity to the child. A teenager may need less time and would probably cringe in horror at the idea of going to a movie with her parents (and sitting next to them), while a younger child may love this idea. A walk with your teenager (far away from where you can be seen by anyone he knows!) may be a good idea instead. And explain that you don't love the sick child more or less than your other children. It's just that, sometimes, the child with FMS needs a little extra help. If you still see a little resentment in your kids without FMS, accept that you've done your best to mitigate it.
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Although nobody gets a parenting manual or bible in the delivery room, it is our duty as parents to try to make our kids as well rounded, happy and confident as possible. It is a lot easier to bring up great kids than it is to try and fix problems caused by bad parenting, when our kids have become adults. Our children are all individuals - they are not our property but people in their own right.