It's understandable and normal if your children have many questions about your fibromyalgia. When you open the topic to questions, you may be surprised at the floodgate that's released. Sometimes, questions will come right away. Other questions may come tomorrow or a week from now.
Your children may ask how long you're going to have this condition (you don't know) and when you're going to get better (you're working on it, but again, you don't know the answer to this question, as much as you'd like to), as well as many other questions.
Your children may ask you if they're going to get fibromyalgia, too. Although fibromyalgia isn't a contagious disease, certain studies indicate that FMS runs in families. However, the only way to know if someone has fibromyalgia is for that person to see a doctor.
Vary your approach with the age of your child. For example, if the child is up to about 8 or 9 years of age, you may want to use the analogy of a glass, giving a concrete example of you when you're "spilling over" with pain and tiredness. Fill the glass up in the sink and let it spill over. The glass represents you on a bad day. Then, fill it up short of the brim. This is you when you have some extra energy to give your family. Older children won't need to see a demo: You can explain the spilling-over concept in words. On one of your bad days, you can tell your children, "It's a spilling-over day for me today. Sorry!"
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