Stage of Coming

The several stage models of the "coming out" process that have been identified include recognizing oneself to be LGB, identifying oneself to others as LGB, and, finally, integrating oneself into an LGB community. Although such a stage model makes intellectual sense, it is problematic to assume that every LGB patient will go through a typical stage process. The most glaring problem with the stage models is that they have been based predominantly on white, male samples and may not apply at all to women, to people of color, or to individuals from other than western European cultures (Smith, 1997). Nevertheless, the process experienced by a particular patient is important to understand. For many men, coming out is often a rapid process, and they move quickly from recognizing themselves as gay or bisexual to engaging in sexual or romantic relationships with other men, and telling others about their sexual orientation. This can be a time full of self-doubt, confusion, and distress for many men (DiPlacido, 1998). Women tend to come out more gradually, and sexual orientation may be less fixed for women than it is for men (Kinnish, Strassberg, & Turner, 2005); that is, whereas most men do not experience their sexual orientation as fluid and changeable, many women do. There is evidence that LGB people are better adjusted when they accept their sexuality and become integrated into an accepting environment (DiPlacido, 1998), although this may not be true for people from all cultures (Dworkin, 1997; Greene, 1994). Thus, if the patient is open about his/her sexual orientation, has loving and accepting friends and family, and is comfortable in most settings in which he/she lives, it is likely that being gay or lesbian is not an issue for discussion in therapy.

Exploring EFT

Exploring EFT

EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. It works to free the user of both physical and emotional pain and relieve chronic conditions by healing the physical responses our bodies make after we've been hurt or experienced pain. While some people do not carry the effects of these experiences, others have bodies that hold onto these memories, which affect the way the body works. Because it is a free and fast technique, even if you are not one hundred percent committed to whether it works or not, it is still worth giving it a shot and seeing if there is any improvement.

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