Exhausted parents are sometimes not aware of the strong feelings of their healthy children. They sometimes assume that children understand that they are loved, and that they would be getting the same attention if they were the one who had cancer. Siblings frequently do not share their powerful feelings of anger, jealousy, or worry because they love their parents and do not want to place additional burdens on them. It is all too common to hear siblings say, "I have to be the strong one. I don't want to cause my parents any more pain." But burdens are lighter if shared, and parents need to try to encourage all of their children to talk about how they are feeling.
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